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What's your pattern?

A short look at the pattern most likely running on autopilot when things get tense, and one move that opens a gap between reaction and response.

4 questions About 3 minutes Private, no account

This is not a personality quiz. You are not your pattern. The point is to see it running, so you can do something different.

First, what should we call you?

First name

Question 1 of 4 · Perception

How you see what's happening around you, and the story you make of it.

Think about the situation that has been weighing on you most.

Pick the one or two that fit best (up to two).

I usually know what's going on, and I don't move off it much. I often notice the things that match my view more than the ones that don't. I usually take things in, even what surprises me, and update my view as I go. Some of it often passes me by, and my picture of what's happening gets blurry. A lot slips past me, and it's hard to make sense of what's going on sometimes.

Question 2 of 4 · Regulation

How you handle what stirs up inside you when things get heavy.

Pick the one or two that fit best (up to two).

What I feel often moves out fast; I react in the moment, or I give more than I want to. I tend to let the feeling drive me a bit, or lean toward smoothing things over. I can usually feel what's running through me without having to act on it right away. I often keep some distance from what I feel; some things I should say end up staying unsaid. I go flat sometimes, and not much comes through.

Question 3 of 4 · Interaction

How you show up with the other person when you're together.

Pick the one or two that fit best (up to two).

I often stay on top of the exchange: I track, correct, and steer how it goes. I tend to keep a close eye on the other, trying to stay a step ahead. I usually stay in contact and do my part, without pressing. I often let my part slip: I skip fixing things, or I go quiet when I should show up. I'm not really in it sometimes, and things drift.

Question 4 of 4 · Action

What you actually do (or don't do) about the situation.

Pick the one or two that fit best (up to two).

I tend to keep pushing; there's always a next move, and the outcome (or how it looks) matters a lot to me. I lean toward doing, even when a pause would help. I usually take the next step when I see it, without rush or stall. I often hold back, waiting for things to be clearer before I move. I get stuck sometimes, or nothing new feels worth the effort.

Reading your pattern

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Your pattern, this week

Hello, here is what's likely running.

The likely pattern

How to spot it

One move you can try

A reminder: this is not a label. It's a pattern you can catch in the act. Seeing it is already the first move; the rest is practice.

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